Emotionally Focused Therapy

I provide couples counseling for partners who want to enhance a healthy relationship, jump-start a tired one, or save one that is slipping away. I will help you to reestablish an emotional connection with your partner by encouraging you to be more open, engaged and responsive. Using Emotionally Focused Therapy techniques I assist couples to feel safe and connected with each other.

We all want to be loved and to love. Our relationships with others can be our greatest sense of accomplishment or our biggest sense of failure.  Sometimes we need a little help…

Benefits of Couples Counseling:

  • Talk about issues in a safe environment.
  • Gain confidence and self expression as a couple by identifying strengths.
  • Improve communication by learning new techniques.
  • Learn to negotiate and compromise with one another and reduce arguments.
  • Learn what is keeping you “stuck” and find ways to move forward with each other.
  • Work through affairs, regain trust and heal.
  • Increase your bond, strengthen your connection and get back the “spark” in your relationship.

Underneath all of the chaos couples are really asking: Can I depend on you? Are you really going to be there for me? Do you really love me? Do I mean anything to you? Will you be there for me when I need you?

In couples counseling I will help you to reestablish an emotional connection with your partner by encouraging you to be more open, engaged and responsive. I assist couples to feel safe and connected with each other.  When this connection happens the world becomes a brighter place and life becomes easier to manage. To learn more about Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) for couples click here.

 

Emotionally focused therapy (EFT) was originally developed for couples, EFT has found effectiveness between family members as well as romantic couples. As its name implies, emotionally focused therapy is based on emotions. It helps in treating depression, distressed relationships, and much more.

Goals of Emotionally Focused Therapy

EFT’s main goals are to expand and reorganize important emotional responses, implement and foster the creation of a secure bond between partners, and help shift each partner’s position of interaction while initiating new cycles of interaction that are more beneficial for the relationship. Emotionally focused therapy helps create secure and lasting bonds between partners and family members and strives to reinforce the positive bonds that already exist. EFT is a practical technique that has enormous success with couples, and can facilitate change in marriages and relationships that exhibit a wide range of challenges. EFT works to intervene where needed and create change to help relationships work more effectively through a spirit of harmony and respect.

 

Emotionally Focused Therapy for Couples

Emotionally focused therapy is generally a short-term (8-20 sessions) couples therapy approach, though it is also used with families. It has been found that 70 to 75 percent of couples effectively move from distress to recovery using EFT and approximately 90 percent of couples show significant improvement in their relationships. EFT has a basis in clear and explicit conceptualizations of adult love and marital/relational distress. It is a collaborative approach that respects clients and helps them implement new strategies called “change strategies” and interventions.

Techniques of Emotionally Focused Therapy

Through the exploration of emotions, reactions, inter-relations, and behaviors, couples can identify and study their individual roles and the effect each has on the dynamic of the relationship. Each participant is encouraged to express their experiences and emotions in a non-judgmental and secure environment. By witnessing the release of feelings and anxieties of one partner, the other is able to gain new insight and perception into the validity and emotional state that their own actions and experiences have on the relationship as a whole. Without criticism or consequences, the partners are permitted to voice their deepest concerns and conflicts in order to address them and move beyond to develop more productive and collaborative behaviors.